Awjin and I just celebrated our 3rd year anniversary (time flies!). I’ve been reflecting on our relationship and how much we’ve both grown. Something I’ve been thinking about lately is how much the media has shaped my image of the “perfect” relationship.
The recent #relationshipgoals fad has been bothering me (although it’s one of the more positive trends in the social-media sphere). Whenever I see #relationshipgoals inserted in comments — whether it be a photo of Bey and Jay Z at the Met Ball or a video of the stunning dance duo Keone and Mariel Madrid — I feel uneasy. It’s great to be inspired by other people’s stories and the love they share. And if those goals are building things like trust and intimacy, I cheer you on; my relationship with Awjin has definitely made me a better person — more understanding, forgiving, and stronger. But what’s unsettling is when we place expectations on a significant other (or someone we haven’t even met yet) based on perfected glimpses caught from a distance. When we try fitting our relationships into a perception of someone else’s, we miss out on building something of our own.
Happy 3 years, Awjin! Thanks for always believing in me, giving me the last french fry, and letting me drag you into this photoshoot. 🙂
photography by the lovely alice xiang